I hate the words “true” and “fake”

So in the bdsm community there are a couple terms I don’t like. Those words are true and fake to describe someone and the way they do their kink or d/s relationships. The reason this bothers me is, theres no one true way to do anything we do in bdsm. What may work for me and mine may not work for you and yours and that’s okay. Also, if you found a partner who’s dom style doesn’t match your kinks it doesn’t make either of you fake or wrong, just incompatible  .  I feel like these words in this context can hurt people because they feel like they have to perform to these Community standards. What do you guys thhink of this?